Offender Family Contact Rules

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IDOC: Offender Family Contact Rules List

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The Idaho Department of Correction requires convicted pedophiles, including Steven Sitler, to obey the following list of rules (click the image to enlarge). This list essentially prohibits Sitler from acting as an authority figure in his child’s life. He cannot initiate contact with his son. He cannot show physical affection to his son. He cannot discipline his son. He cannot do any normal parental activity with his son without violating this code of conduct, because the state of Idaho recognizes that Sitler, along with all other fixated pedophiles, is a constant threat to his child’s wellbeing.

And Pastor Douglas Wilson of Christ Church, Moscow, knew these rules were in effect when he presided over the serial pedophile’s wedding. He thinks this is normal. He says he would perform the marriage again — “next week.”

 

IDAHO DEPARTMENT OF CORRECTION

OFFENDER FAMILY CONTACT RULES LIST

General Rules:

  1. Never be alone with children.
  2. Never be responsible for supervising or disciplining children.
  3. Never initiate physical contact with children.
  4. Never discuss issues of sexuality with minors.
  5. The offender should not present himself as wanting or needing caretaking or special affection from children.
  6. The use of alcohol is prohibited.

Rules for family visits outside the home:

  1. The offender is to never be alone with children. A chaperone approved by the Probation/Parole officer is to be present at all times.
  2. The offender is not to discipline children. The chaperone is responsible for determining appropriate disciplining of the children. The chaperone is responsible for administering rewards or punishment.
  3. Any discussions of the abuse between the offender and the children will take place in the treatment setting.
  4. The offender will minimize physical contact with children and will not initiate physical contact with children (ie, hugs, hand holding, etc.). The offender will not sit next to children in a car, a restaurant, etc.
  5. The offender is not to be around children’s friends.
  6. The offender will have no secrets with the children.
  7. There will be no gift giving to the children except through the chaperone.

Visits home:

  1. The offender will never enter the children’s bedrooms.
  2. The offender should be within eyesight of the chaperone at all times during home visits.
  3. The offender is not to control or dictate children’s activities.
  4. The offender is not to confront children regarding their misbehavior.
  5. The offender is not to sit next to children or have a child sit on his or her lap.
  6. The offender is not to be involved in the physical hygiene of the children.
  7. The offender is not to criticize or compliment children’s physical appearance (ie, hair, clothes, makeup, etc.), unless specifically asked for his or her opinion by the child.
  8. The offender is not to engage in horseplay or tickling with the children.

8 Comments

  1. I am grateful for these rules which protect the child from predation (but of course offer no safe haven from being the object of his father’s sexual fantasies.) A father who is unable to perform routine, hands-on parenting tasks and provide spontaneous loving affection is no parent at all. This train wreck of marriage and now parenthood brings the promise of generational dysfunction. If Katie Sitler has any hope of raising a mentally healthy and emotionally undamaged child she needs to leave this marriage immediately. By staying on she is proving that she is as damaged and needy as her husband. For the sake of God can’t either of these two think about the welfare of the baby instead of their own twisted needs?
    Rose Huskey

    1. By now, we can be fairly certain Katie understands the nightmare of her marriage. And like you, Wayne, I feel sorry for her. Probably everyone does. Except Doug Wilson. A shepherd marries to a sheep to a wolf and says he would do it again. Words fail.

    2. @Wayne & Frank — Just spitballing here, but I believe they chose Katie to be his bride because they were confident they could groom her through the whole process.

      It strikes me as implausible that she doesn’t understand what’s happening unless you figure she’s a bit dim and easily manipulated, which I suspect is the case. They have successfully groomed (dulled) her maternal instincts to the point that she would rather let Sitler molest her child than see her husband locked away forever. The moment Sitler told her that he felt sexually aroused by the infant, a normal healthy mother would have neutralized the predator, or else grabbed that child and ran for their lives. But she acquiesced.

      Mission accomplished, by Team Sitler, which is led by Doug Wilson.

    3. Everything I’ve seen of Katie Travis indicates that she’s none too bright. She may seem like a willing participant at this point, but to me she’s more like Patty Hearst.

      There’s a pointed analogy for you, by the way: the Symbionese Liberation Army/Doug Wilson & Christ Church. I’ll bet you could find some fascinating parallels if you did a quantitative analytical comparison.

  3. @Ulysses–Where did this document come from? It’s clearly an IDOC document, but did it come from Sitler’s file? In other words, I guess I’d like to know whether this is a standard set of rules that all convicted child rapists are required to follow, rather than just guidelines that can be bent and varied from case to case. If the document reflects the law in Idaho, then we understand better how Stegener could so casually remark before Sitler’s marriage that children were basically out of the question. Sitler’s attorney (also a prominent KIRK member) would have known this, and therefore so would Wilson, et al., if they were counseling Sitler and Travis through this. How they could encourage this marriage knowing that Sitler could never truly be a father to his children, knowing what a nightmare the kids’ upbringing would be–I really have no words here. What do they get out of this? How in any world of facts does it reflect the grace of God? Are they following Christ or Wilson at the KIRK? And who in the hell is Wilson following?

  4. I will be happy to answer your question, Mike. There is an on-line repository for Idaho court actions. Google “Idaho Courts” to access it and follow the directions to find the name and record of specific accused or convicted offenders. The Sitler case record is very, very long. The repository record is a list of all pending and past court actions. When a Sitler hearing is scheduled I attend (with a few exceptions). All Latah County court records are kept in the courthouse and are available under Idaho public records law. Latah County (by state administrative rule) charges $1.00 per page for a copy of the record. All unsealed court documents (which are the only ones available to the public) are obtained by public records requests. I stop by the courthouse in person and ask to review the file(s) and identify the records I wish to have copied. The copies are made by court staff. I should also note that, probably 2/3 of the Sitler files are sealed, and are not open to the public in order to protect the names of his victims and the nature of the abuse they endured.

    You ask if Wilson knew about these rules. Of course he did, as did Siter, his parents and most assuredly his then fiancé and now wife, Katie Sitler. It is a fact that she was fully acquainted with the complete extent of his confessed crimes prior to their marriage. I was told by Probation and Parole personnel that they require a total disclosures of the known and admitted offenses from the offender to a potential spouse. And by the way, P & P opposed the marriage. It is also a fact, and hardly a surprising one, that Katie Sitler did not disclose her husband’s sexual fantasies about his infant son although she knew about them, and was obligated by her approved chaperon status to report them. Absent the polygraph, we have every reason (based on the record of her inaction) to believe that information would have remained hidden. She is a party to his deception and so are his parents. It is terrifying to realize (again thanks to court records) that the nitwit sexual treatment personnel at Valley Treatment Specialties and his local treating psychologist, Dr. Greg Wilson, who have all had ten years of professional interaction with Steven Sitler, only two weeks prior to the failed polygraph, wrote glowing reports indicating Steven was perfectly fine to continue to parent his child in his home.

    We have all wondered what in the world Doug Wilson and the elders were thinking about when supporting this marriage. As functioning and literate adults we must assume that all of them knew, or could reasonably surmise the consequences and danger of bringing a baby into this household. While it is well and good to believe a pedophile may repent after years of molesting infants and young children it is beyond belief that any thinking adult, unless so morally corrupt and/or profoundly ignorant would support and participate in marriage when a fixated pedophile expresses his desire for children in the home. I cannot over emphasize the level of stupidity and credulity of the Christ Church elders and their willingness to engage in lockstep adherence and loyalty to Doug Wilson’s wishes. They should have stepped down when the marriage took place. But, since many of them are employees of Christ Church or other Doug Wilson related businesses they obviously valued money over morality. We cannot forget that church elder, Ed Iverson, set up the introduction of the couple. Do you think for a nanosecond that Doug didn’t know about that? The distinctly aberrant and distorted thinking of Roxanne and Dave Sitlers whose own minor relatives had been abused by Steven, and the abysmal failure of responsible parenting on the part of the Travis family in their eagerness to marry off their daughter to a pedophile is breathtaking. Last and certainly not least, the immature and desperation for a husband, any husband, by Katie Travis is inexcusable. She, at the very least was a willing victim and her failure to report her husband’s sexual arousal after (unknown) contact with her son places her in the same category as every other enabling participant in placing this baby at risk of physical molestation.

    The unimaginable corruption of Doug Wilson in his “happiness” then and to this very day to aid and abet this anathema of a marriage is a more telling indictment of his character and level of depravity than any words I could write.

    Again, please rest assured all court documents posted on this site have been purchased at Latah County, are open to the public, and have been obtained through appropriate Idaho public record laws.

    Rose Huskey

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